All this makes it more necessary than ever to have the ability to bounce back. More people find themselves in the position to have to start over. The ones who make it with the least wear and tear start with a strong desire and a plan of action.
People on the outside looking in often assume the successful achieved that status on the first try. This is seldom the case. Walt Disney for example experienced numerous setbacks that would have made the average person quit. For example:
1. Multiple bankruptcies!
2. Being told no for years as he tried to build a Theme Park!
3. Being laughed at when introducing a talking mouse cartoon to studio executives!
But in the end we now have one of the most successful examples in American history. Plus, we have a name synonomous with award winning motion pictures and Fun times, Disney.
Another famous American figure experienced the following setbacks, for example…
1831 – He lost his job.
1832 – He was defeated in a run for Illinois State Legislature.
1833 – He failed in business.
1834 – He was elected to Illinois State Legislature (success).
1835 – His sweetheart died.
1836 – He had nervous breakdown.
1838 – He was defeated in run for Illinois House Speaker.
1843 – He was defeated in run for nomination for U.S. Congress.
1846 – He was elected to Congress (success).
1848 – He lost re-nomination.
1849 – He was rejected for land officer position.
1854 – He was defeated in run for U.S. Senate.
1856 – He was defeated in run for nomination for Vice President.
1858 – Again he was defeated in run for U.S. Senate.
1860 – Finally he was Elected President (most successful comebacks in history).
His name, Abraham Lincoln. So, what’s your excuse for giving up after a setback? What was the difference between Disney, Abraham Lincoln and countless others who have achieved success and the rest who fail? It was their ability to fail forward and improve with each failure instead of getting discouraged enough to quit.
One of the greatest examples of failing forward came from Thomas Edison, who failed forward over 10,000 times. When asked what kept him going after so many failures? His reply? “Now I know 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Here’s 3 Powerful Tips That Will Help Anyone Fail Forward and Bounce Back Strong.
This is an important action to take after a setback. Most people make the mistake of brooding, blaming or trying to cover up the pain by drinking or doing some other self-destructive behavior.
When you reflect you take the time to think quietly and calmly the following 3 points.
A. What did I do wrong?
B. How could I have avoided it?
C. How can I move on?
2. Avoid Making the Same Mistakes Twice.
It’s a huge error trying to go through life not making mistakes. Most successful people make a ton of them by their own admission. It comes with the territory of high achievement. The key is to avoid making the same mistakes over and over. You do this by analyzing, managing and establishing a plan to keep from making the mistakes again and improving it until it’s accomplished.
3. Locate Failing Forward and Bounce Back Roll Models.
Nothing can help a person bounce back from setbacks than seeing physical examples of it. Make it a point to seek out people who have bounced back from setbacks. These people are not that hard to find, often it just requires someone who has succeeded at something. Why? Because most people you label as successful have had to overcome a setback of some kind on their way to the top.